Thursday, March 26, 2015

You sent me a what?






Yesterday, my friend sent me a Facebook message. She’d been trying to reach me and getting no answer after repeated attempts.  Was I all right?

As far as I knew, I was all right, and more than all right. I had no messages on my home phone or Facebook. Where had she been trying to reach me?

On two different cell phones, it turned out. Mine and my husband’s.  But there were no messages.



I scratched my head. 

The messages as you may have already  out were texts and there they were sitting on the text screen of my cell.  This is a place I have rarely been and hope to never be again.

Sure, I have lots of friends who use it to communicate with their adult children and their families. My own grown-up up kids use it all the time.

I just am not keen to have another place to check.  I am not alone. My hubby’s phone makes a sound like a kid’s tricycle bell every time he gets a text. I estimate he has received thousands of them, many in the hours of three to five in the morning.  This is why his phone no longer spends the night recharging in our bedroom.  For the record, I’m pretty sure he’s never read one of them. 

I think texts are a great idea. For other people. Or even for me if I’m in some kind of life-threatening situation or I'm lost in the mall.


But I have plenty to keep up with on email, two Facebook accounts, two Facebook message sections, Pinterest, newsletter, comments by lovely friends on my blog posts, Yahoo groups, voice mail, snail mail and notes stuck on my door by delivery guys.

I don’t want another place to look.  Yes, I realize in the time it took me to type this post on my slightly antiquated keyboard, another three social media sites were probably born. I just don’t want to think about it.  It's enough to drive me to drink. Hang on, I'm reaching for my flask.


So what do you think:: can I get by without texts and texting? If you are a younger member of my family, you have just rolled your eyes.  Don’t care. I’m used to it. 

And how about the rest of you? What kinds of messaging do you absolutely need and what can you live without?  Is there anything that just drives you crazy.  Maybe it’s people who don’t answer your texts. 

You might even want to respond to me by text, but unless you are one of the five (eye-rolling) people who have my cell phone number …  never mind. I hope you do respond here. I always love reading your comments.






33 comments:

Jen Scott said...

I like to text on my IPad, but I have a small number of friends and family (who also text). It is a fast and easy way of saying hi.

Zena Weldon said...

I grew up with landline phones, some with party lines, television was new, Internet and social media were dreams, handwritten notes and letters meant someone cared. Today, at almost 75 years old, I'm happy with my landline phone, no cell so no texting, because I can go places and not be interrupted or annoy the people around me. The Internet is a very useful tool.
Sometimes I admire everyone who can manage and use all the types of technology and communication today. Sometimes I wonder if all the "connections" are separating people too. Ah, youth. Those days are gone. A new world and new choices. It is grand that we each get to choose how we communicate and let others know what we've chosen.

Gram said...

I am a bit older than Zena, but grew up with party lines too. We have 4 computers, two printers and FB and email, and a landline. It is so nice to go somewhere in the car and enjoy the drive. Except for those who drive all over the road while they are texting! Yes it is illegal, but it doesn't stop people.

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Thanks, Jen. That's what my friends and family say! I think it's also a great way to say I'm stuck in a snowbank, come and rescue me. Hugs. MJ/VA

Mary Jane Maffini said...

What a great response, Zena! I am firmly in your camp. To each her own.

Thanks for coming by.

Hugs.

MJ/VA

Mary Jane Maffini said...

I remember party lines too, Gram. I hate seeing those texting drivers! What are they thinking? That they're superheroes?

I love too love the car. for a bit of peace and quiet, a chance for conversation or to listen to music.

Hugs,.

MJ (also Gram)

mary kennedy said...

OMG< MJ, this is hysterical and I can totally relate. Going to share this on FB and I bet you will get a ton of comments from readers, both high-tech, and "not so much." I call myself a "techno-idiot" which is an apt description of my abilities.

Duffy Brown said...

Oh MJ this is a hoot. I only text when I have to and like Mary I’m a techno-idiot. I tell my kids…just call me. I use my very nice iPhone for directions. Suri and I are BFFs.

AnneL said...

I do have a cell phone and some friends do text me, but I've been know not to look at my cell phone for days and then find out some friend texted me to go to lunch!! 3 days ago! ha. I'm on the computer all day with work so I do not care to text that much. My phone and I are just acquaintances.

Dru said...

I tell people the best way to reach me is via email, as I can access it on my phone and on my computer. Unless the phone is right in front of my face, I won't see any texts as I always forget to take phone out of my purse once I get home from work.

Anonymous said...

no texting for me, have it on my cell but never use it

Diane LaBrie Leverson said...

Last night my cell phone made a strange noise. I looked and couldn't find why it did that, then I saw a blue thing with like lightning bolt on it.. Clicked that and there was a message. I think it might be messenger from Facebook. So now I can do that. My son sent me my first text about 6 months so now I can do that too. I have it set like the cell phone to ring like an old phone. Nice and loud. I still prefer the house phone and sometimes forget to charge all these things. I also think I hear better on the corded land line phone, but do use the cordless. Nice to hear someones voice and that they take the time to talk to me.

Carol B said...

When I first got my flip cell phone (about 10 years ago), I blocked text messages from my account. That was because my contract specified that I would pay 15 cents for each sent or received message. Within a few days of getting the phone, I had received about 6 text messages--not a single one from anyone I had ever heard of before, and at least half of them obscene. I called the company and had texting blocked, since I was not going to pay for such messages and wasn't going to send any texts myself anyway. When that phone tore up--about a year and a half ago--I replaced it with a phone as simple as I could get. Although it is text-capable, I have never unblocked them from my account. Since I have now survived a total of 60 years without once sending a text message or receiving one that was really meant for me, I'm pretty sure I can survive the next 60 years textless, too.

Annette N said...

At one time in my life, I had a job that put me in front of people who were in need of immediate help. I loved the work and helping people, but it was stressful. I did not have a cell phone for a long time - I did not want to be available to anyone all the time. Being alone was a time for me to decompress.

My adult children told me I had to have a cell because I traveled. Got a cell that did phone calls only. Not a bad thing. I now have a cell which probably can tap dance and sing - I have no idea. It receives texts. It sends texts. I have used the text thingy - not often but have used it.

If I have a phone, I think its job should be to make and receive phone calls.....what a concept. A. G. Bell had a plan and why should we mess with perfection? I still do not think it is necessary for sometone to be able to reach me any hour of the day.

First of all, my life is dull and no one I know ever tells me anything life changing. And if they really want to speak to me, they will call, I will recognize their phone number and we will chat. Otherwise, leave me alone, I am reading.

Anonymous said...

I have a landline with both a corded and a cordless phone. The corded phone works if the power is out plus is next to the computer. Love the cordless because I can do other things if I'm on the phone. After being yelled at by a friend about needing a cell phone for emergencies, I finally succumbed with the cheapest phone and plan I could get. It does have texting but have never used it. Didn't even get a computer until 3 years ago when I retired. Before that I could get and send personal emails at work. Love email, esp because both of my sibs have been overseas. Won't get a Facebook account even though I would like to participate in your events. Cordella

Maggie Sefton said...

LOL, M.J. I admit I'm in the texting and all things mobile community. All four of my girls text plus my grandchildren plus 98% of my friends. So I've been texting since it first came out. Since I travel a lot, I found it necessary because you can put the ringer on mute or vibrate and not annoy people around you. Plus you can send photos and videos with a text. My girls and I send out group texts all the time updating family on what's happening. With this upcoming wedding in April, there's a ton of stuff going on. I absolutely love phone calls and make sure I talk to my girls once a week so we can catch up. But texting is convenient for passing along info and updates. I've gotten lots of Puppy Boss photos and a funny video I'll post on the CC blog. :)

Linda Rima said...

Because of medical condition (fingers numb) it is difficult to text. Especially on the cell phone. And poor eyesight means texting is difficult to read. I do have talk to text on my phone (didn't know it until my son told me) but often my Texan drawl confuses the phone. Family & friends know if they need answer in a reasonable timeframe, they better call & leave a message. OTHER than just "call me". I refuse to give into peer pressure & adopt a procedure that is difficult for me and not beneficial for me! There's enough stress without adding to it by texting. I will absolutely NOT have an extended conversation by texting. I type "call me", ;)

Lynn Delage said...

I gave in to texting when my grandkids moved back to town and that is their primary means of communication. I also have several friends who prefer texting to talking. I am 67 years old so have gone from party-lines to cell phones. I also have a FB page and e-mail but only one of each. If I had multiple like you I might not want to text either.

Lynda Turpin said...

Before I retired, I worked in computer support and then computer security, so I'm used to "gadgets". But even at that, I held off on texting for a long time. But it has become a valuable tool for me. I can send a text when I'm thinking of something and the person can read it and respond when it's convenient. I have a few relatives who seldom answer their phones but they will check their texts. And texts can be convenient for times when it's not practical for people to call me or for me to call them. It's also convenient because I can take a picture of something with my phone and then send it to someone- it makes it easier to describe something to someone when you can show them a picture.

I do have a land line but it is for emergencies (in case my cell dies) and as a phone call trash can. I get a LOT of soliciting calls on my land line (even with no call list). I have an answering machine and people can leave a message if they want to talk to me (and I can decide if I want to talk to them), but my friends and family have my cell phone number. Even when I'm home, I don't pick up the land line unless I hear someone I want to talk to start leaving a message.

But I do have to agree that it's a pain to have so many places to keep track of. My FB and email can be so time consuming to stay on top of them.

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Mary, let's start a support group or a twelve step martini program! Anything!

Hugs.

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Just call me! I want the T-shirt!

Thanks, Duffy.

Hugs

Mary Jane Maffini said...

I hear you, Anne!

Maybe thought transfer is the way to go.

Hugs.

Mary Jane Maffini said...

You and me both,. Dru! Email rocks - it's the best way. You always respond.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Atta girl, Nancy! Let's stand together.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

I agree, Diane. I like being able to do things, but the landline is much better.

Thanks for coming by.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Yes! I can be done, Carol B. We can win this thing.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Leave me alone. I am reading. These are words to live by, Annette.

Thank you and a big hug.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

I like your priorities, Cordella. And you opinions.

Always good to hear from you.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

I'll leave you in charge of it, my friend. I can sure see the benefits in your busy life.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Good for you, Linda. Don't give in. I'd love to hear your Texan drawl. People should pay for that.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

I bet I'll have to give in at some point, Lynn. But I'm trying to hold out.

Hugs.

MJ

Mary Jane Maffini said...

You amaze me, Lynda! You are a dynamo and an inspiration.

Hugs.

MJ

Lynn Cahoon said...

I've texted more this last two months than I ever did. My family loves texting and I was home for Mom's funeral in Feb. Then in March, my husband was in an accident. Texting allowed me to keep in contact with those back home, even at the hospital.

But typically, when I get home, my phone stays in my purse. :)