Wednesday, March 4, 2015

The shame of it all...

I only eat multi-grain bread, buy organic fruits, veggies, chicken and beef. Heck, even my milk is organic and so are my freaking eggs and popcorn!

But the thing  is…every once in a while…I’m making rice crispy treats at two in the morning ‘casue I’m having a sugar melt-down.

Thank heavens for the 24-hr grocery five minutes away…actually four-minutes and thirty-three seconds and every second counts when a sugar craving hits.

I cannot keep cookies in the house or candy or Peeps…those sugary marshmallow things. I found one in the back of the closet last month, nearly fainted from the sheer joy of finding candy, bit into it and dislocated my jaw. The trials and tribulations of a junk food addict.

I know these are all sins and no way should I be running out at 2 AM in my jammies for cereal and marshmallows but it happens. Then it occurred to me that maybe not everything needs to be healthy. Maybe a little happy is good too. 

Oh I know that skinned chicken breast is so yummy and the apple is just lovely but in my world the hamburger wins out over the breast and the cookie takes the apple every time.

So what about this...I said to myself. One yummy meal a week
where sin can happen and guilt gets kicked to the curb. For me it’s fried chicken, mashed potatoes with real butter and gravy…lots and lots of gravy. And desert. Not some frozen yogurt stuff with more organic fruit but cake! Real live cake with icing. Chocolate cake and butter icing. My meal of sin and gluttony.


So what is your meal of sin and shame? If we have one totally yummy, guilt free meal a week maybe the apple and skinned chicken breast won’t be so bad. Right? Maybe?

Happy Eating. 
Hugs, Duffy 

  

49 comments:

Kell Brigan said...

I know you're going for humor, here, but everything you've described is at the level of mental illness. Not only does this level of obsession drive wedges between women (fat v. thin, myths v. realities), but also can ultimately lead to anorexia, orthorexia and bulimia. There is no reason why anyone should ever be ashamed of feeding themselves; it's not funny. Recommended reads: the entirety of the Junk Food Science blog (http://junkfoodscience.blogspot.com/), the Elly Satter Institute re. what constitutes normal eating (shame is nowhere in the definition) (http://ellynsatterinstitute.org/hte/whatisnormaleating.php), the National Eating Disorders Association re. orthorexia nervosa (https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/orthorexia-nervosa), and the book The Authenticity Hoax, for a discussion on why "good" is never "good enough" (http://www.amazon.com/The-Authenticity-Hoax-Things-Happy/dp/0061251356). The reason you're binging at night is because you're not eating enough during the day, period. Assigning "shame" labels to certain foods and trying to put eating them on a schedule is a guarantee that you'll become even more obsessed with them. None of this is sane, or healthy, or OK. None of it is funny.

Malka E said...

there are brown rice, rice krispies and vegan marshmellow fluff... just sayin'..... course you can't run out in your jammies and get them!

mary kennedy said...

Hi Duffy, that chocolate cake is calling to me with its sugary little voice!! I hear you about comfort food, I love it. And especially in the winter. But with this kind of weather, we all need a little comfort, don't we? That's what I keep telling myself.'

emilia.m said...

chips. nuts (I know, supposedly healthy but not the amounts I'd like to eat ;) ), chocolate. not at night though :) At night I am sleeping :D

Diane LaBrie Leverson said...

Pasta, I love it almost any way. I mean real pasta not the brown stuff or the healthy kind. I also love pot roast with potatoes, carrots and lots of gravy. One thing I really love is Shrimp Scampi. At my age, I eat what I want but not too much of it. I may not by thin but I'm happy. To me that's what counts.

Chris nicholson said...

I save all my sinful treats for when I head back home to the states once a year. Weiners, Del's lemon aid, stuffies, chowder and clam cakes, doughboys…. the list is endless of things I can't get here in the UK. I have to say that we do get a take-a-way once a week here. Yogurt, jello and ice cream have been my friends as of late, my stomach is on the blink and soft easy to digest are my go to foods for now.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Kelly. Eating rice crispy treats isn’t binging it’s just a craving. If you’ve never had a craving for anything in the middle of the night…lucky you. I’m 68, done all the above and probably no more mentally ill than the next person. This is about trying to eat healthy and once in a while not. Lighten up.

Anonymous said...

Great blog, Duffy! I think I'm developing a mental illness over that chocolate cake description - butter icing - mmmmm.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Malka. Thanks but I’ll probably stick with my rice crispy treats once in a while. sometimes I add raisins and nuts…my healthy addition.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Emilia. I love nuts too! One of my fav go-to snack foods.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Diane. Yes, pasta…the good stuff…is amazing. I make my grandma’s sauce and invite the kids over for dinner. And pot roast. Is there anything better than good pot roast? Yummm.

Duffy Brown said...

Oh, Mary, the cake looks too yummy. A sliver now and then with coffee…delish!

Duffy Brown said...

Hi Chirs. I do that too! Hotdogs at the baseball game, dessert when out for dinner,
when we got the amusement park I get blue ice cream and funnel cakes. Thanks for chatting.

Duffy Brown said...

I love chicken soup!

Kate Collins said...

I'm with you, Duffy. I eat healthy 9 out of 10 times, but sometimes I just want a few slices of pizza or a big brownie smothered in chocolate. Life is too short to deny ourselves those moments of pleasure. If we obsess about everything we put in our mouths, we're not really living, are we? So crunch on those Rice Crispy treats and savor every bite!

Ellery Adams said...

I'm glad you posted a photo of a Peep, Duffy. For some reason, those guys are my go-to friends when I need a little sugar treat. One or two will do the trick and I'm quite sure that the happy, bright colors are part of the reason I like them so much. Our bodies have their own ways of telling us what we need, and I don't think there's a clock when it comes to treat time. I know that as I've gotten older, the times I feel hungry are different now then when I was younger. Keeps life exciting, right?

Lynn Delage said...

I have diabetes do I have to be extra careful with the data and sugar. But even then I met myself have a forbidden treat once a week so I don't go on a binge as O have found I am prone to do if I get too,too strict with my eating. Love rice krispy treats but do not understand the attraction of peeps. Cannot stand them. I'm 67 myself.

Mary Jane Maffini said...

I loved your blog today, Duffy! I am now 67 and 355/365th and have Type 2 diabetes. I really have to watch what I eat. That is a reality for many of us with chronic conditions or the ongoing battle of extra pounds. The most helpful medical practitioner told that if you eat right at least 80 percent of the time and if you allow yourself planned treats, you will be more likely to stick to a program. For me part of that 20 % is chocolate. It sings to me from its hiding places every night. My daughter, Virginia, once told me she could smell the food on the TV adds. Is singing chocolate so far off? XO MJ

Duffy Brown said...

My fav birthday cake. Yummm.

Duffy Brown said...

Yep, once in a while the cookie wins out over the apple. Thanks, Kate.

Duffy Brown said...

I agree! A Peep or two and I’ve had my fix and I do love the colors. With all this gloom and snow spring colors are just the thing.

Duffy Brown said...

Diabetes is so tricky you do have to be careful. I think half the attraction to the Peeps is the colors. After the gloom of winter we to eat something yellow. LOL
Hugs, Duffy

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Mary Jane! My daughter just told me the same 20/80 thing. I need to get more veggies in my diet but try to stay healthy and am always battling the scale. For me it’s peanut butter. I adore the stuff.

Karen in Ohio said...

I'm with Mary Jane on this one. Back in the day, before I came to be responsible for the contents of other human beings' stomachs (how did that happen?), my method of weight control was very simple: stick to a strict diet during the week, and on Saturday night eat whatever I wanted, and also on Sunday morning. I never felt deprived, and could save up my cravings until the weekend pretty easily.

If only I had a single guilty pleasure, but I do enjoy one single malt scotch on the weekend, and every now and then I'll stop at the local health food store for a store-made treat that has pecans, chocolate chips and coconut baked into a bar. It used to be Busken's Maysville brownies, but they don't appeal the way they used to, thank goodness!

Annette N said...

Peeps don't do it for me, rice krispy treats nah. But, chocolate candy - Hershey kisses and peanut butter cups and chocolate covered cherries. At times I have this thing (picture the movie Alien) inside me that wants chocolate candy. I have given up chocolate candy for Lent. It makes me feel that I am a much better person.

Duffy, if there were such a thing as a bromance for women, this post would do it for me. It's a good thing you are not living in Austin cause I would have to follow you around telling you how great you are. You hit the nail on the head. At times we must allow ourselves a treat, that is human nature. I try to eat in a manner that is healthy, but at times the need for Texas Toast and white gravy for dipping just sort of takes over. Thanks for the post, it was spot on. I think I may have to go to Dairy Queen in a bit.

Duffy Brown said...

I love Graeters but it’s getting so that it doesn’t love me. So sad.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Annette. Texas Toast is so yummy as is gravy for dipping and putting on my chicken and mashed potatoes. I know there are people who eat to live and sometimes I just live to eat. So many wonderful recipes out there. I love Dairy Queen soft-serve dipped in chocolate. One of my fav guilty pleasures. Sure wish we lived closer. We’d have fun together. Hugs, Duffy

Anonymous said...

Oh how I'm glad I'm not the only seeks out Marshmallow Peeps from time to time. I found, oddly enough, chocolate covered Peeps at Office Depot last month. Oh how I wished I would have stocked up on them as Office Depot is well over an hour away. And none of the stores here have them. It's the ultimate in torture I tell you!!

As far as my sinful meal goes, I would have to say spaghetti and garlic bread. I have an allergy to tomatoes. And even though I know I can't have spaghetti any more, sometimes I crave it like a fat kid craves cupcakes. I always end up regretting it as I start itching all over and get mouth sores. But boy sometimes I swear it is worth it!

Anonymous said...

Ah, chocolate. It comes from a bean, so it must be a vegetable, right?
When I was younger, I could eat all the fudge, butter, sugar etc. I wanted and not gain an ounce. Then I had children. Then I had a sedentary job. Then I wasn't sleeping as well or as much... I tried doing the low sugar, low fat methods and found that as long as I don't get enough sleep, it doesn't help. I started using a FitBit about six months ago and the things it told me about my sleep and water consumption and exercise were alarming. Now I'm eating less processed food, letting myself feed my cravings, and trying to get both enough sleep and water (well, the sleep thing is still a challenge) and the weight is slowly but surely coming off. No point in beating ourselves up over minor dietary indiscretions, if we won't treat ourselves well, who else will?
Thanks for the grins, and happy habit moderation!

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Duffy! Today in the paper I read that peanuts (meaning the natural peanut butter without additives like sugar and salt) are actually good for us. Yes! I have it almost every day. Glad to find out it's a good thing.

Hugs. MJ

servedogmom said...

Duffy, Love your blog entry today!!! In our home we definitely strive for nutritious meals with desserts once or twice a week, but between the description and photo, I'm craving chocolate cake. My daughters and I are definitely chocoholics so I believe there ill be a chocolate dessert this evening. The perfect ending to a dinner of Baked Rotini with Mozzarella & Spinach and mixed veggie salad. Will be the best part of a chilly winter day.

Rachelle21 said...

Local thrift store had anniversary today. Free hot dog, chips, soda and of course cake. Also, clothing was $.25 from 11 am to 1 pm. I had the cake after dinner.

LD Masterson said...

Pizza. Gotta have my pizza. And ice cream.

(I gave up ice cream for Lent and I'm seriously jonesing over here.)

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Angie. I love pasta maybe with pesto sauce, that’s really tasty too. You really are allergic to tomatoes. So sorry about that. Tomatoes are in so much stuff. I’ve never seen the chocolate Peeps but will definitely keep an eye out. Thanks for the heads up.

Duffy Brown said...

I’ve been thinking about getting fitbit too. Sounds like it really works for you maybe I should do this. Thanks for the suggestion.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi MJ…I do the organic peanut butter with apples. Yummm. Glad to hear it’s good for me. :-)

Duffy Brown said...

That all sounds totally delish. I’m coming to your house for dinner. Yummmm.

Duffy Brown said...

Wow, that is some sale. What fun and you now have chocolate cake for dinner. Cannot beat that.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, LD. I love ice cream but it doesn’t love me. I can still to pizza in small amounts. It’s hell to get old. What happened to my iron stomach? LOL

Lynn in Texas said...

Oh, Duffy, a woman after my own heart! Sometimes I wish there was a "like" button here for the blogs and responses. We all need "a little happy" from time to time in our lives. I think it's great to indulge once a week or so on any craving of choice. I'm more of a salty gal, but do love my chocolate, and intend to enjoy it as long as I can! And I'm a total rat for cheese of any kind, yum!

Kell Brigan said...

How fortunate you've never seen any die from an eating disorder, never been denied a job or access to college because people thought you were a "glutton." Your callous disregard for the sufferings of others is absolutely extraordinary.

Duffy Brown said...

Hi, Lynn. Eating healthy is important but a little fun is good too. :-) Thanks for chatting. Hugs, Duffy

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Maggie Sefton said...

I know I'm late chiming in late, but I just wanted to echo the Sensible Solution comments I've read. Thankfully I don't have diabetes or any other chronic condition, but as many have already pointed out aging requires us to get more rigorous in watching what we eat. And like so many humans, I do love chocolate. And I've found that a regular size Peppermint Patty can satisfy it. Only 140 calories and 70% less fat than other candy bars. Pus it tastes really goood. . For daily eating I eat good lean protein and lots of veggies. Grass-fed beef, cage-free chicken, and wild caught fish. Also, be careful what area of the world those fish come from. Yes, we all have to be more careful than we were when we were in our 30s but, hey. . .that's not a bad thing. Oh, yeah----and my personal answer for staying healthy---a cardio workout 5-6 days a week. I've been doing it for over 30 years. Keeps away the really bad diseases.

Zena Weldon said...

A friend told me that a professional ballet dancer recommended a heaping teaspoon of peanut butter mixed in yogurt. He said it was nutritious and filling first thing in the morning before his practice session. I tried it. Delicious and filling. Thank you, Mary Jane, for the reminder. I've gotten out of the habit.

Duffy Brown said...

Healthy eating is critical and where the food comes from so important. I do Zumba 2-3 times a week and love it. Always a great workout

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Colleen Leyrer said...

I couldn't stop laughing. I know all too well what you've described. Minus the peeps- I give those to my sister- I just never got into the peeps business. I try so hard not to keep those things in the house (carbs, and sugar). But my biggest glutton food would be our family's version of goulash. Its basically macaroni and cheese, with browned hamburger meat and some pace picante sauce. That's it. I could eat my weight in that. And the desert of choice may be a toss between Tres Leches cake (H-E-B brand) or Pecan pie, heated up until it's a gooey mountain of sticky sweet lava. No ice cream required, it just gets in the way of my cavaties.

Duffy Brown said...

Oh Colleen. I’m right there with you, I just don’t keep carbs and sugar in the house. The goulash sounds amazing! Yummmm. I make a killer pecan pie for the holidays. Always a crowd-pleaser. Thanks so much for chatting. Hugs, Duffy