Monday, October 6, 2014

Grumpy Geese

by Kate Collins

I'm sitting at my desk working on a scene from my current mystery in progress, FLORIST GRUMP, (Nov. 20150) in which poor beleaguered Abby is under all kinds of stress (you'll have to read the next book to find out why). Because of factors beyond her control she's not getting enough rest or down time and with everything else going on in her life, she's a big grump.

My desk faces a corner with windows on both walls, giving me a panoramic view of a large pond. On that pond today are at least a hundred geese, honking, splashing, showing off by beating their wings, and generally distracting me. I could only capture a fraction of them with my iPad camera, but you get the picture. Literally, I hope. I also snapped a pic of a white egret contentedly fishing all by his lonesome. I relate to that.

What you can't see are several bad-tempered geese that I watch  in fascination. A group of them will be picking at things in the grass and suddenly one will put his head down, hiss, and charge another one, scaring him away. The puzzle is why. There isn't anything that's apparent in the other bird's behavior to cause it. So I'm guessing Mr. Grump simply got up on the wrong side of the nest.


It still leaves me wondering what would make a goose grumpy. The sun is shining, the weather is mild, the others are eating congenially . . . What's your problem, Bub?

I know people like that. They have everything going for them and yet they're grumpy. They scowl and make disparaging remarks for no apparent reason, just like the charging goose. They have a negative outlook that makes everyone around them miserable. Do you know people like that?

I try to get away from the grumpy geese when I meet them. Sometimes, however, it's impossible, and so I imagine a clear plastic bubble around me, a shield, if you will. I read once that when negative people send their negative energy towards a shield, it bounces back and makes them uncomfortable. I tried it and it worked. The person moved away.

Since my husband passed away, I've read a lot of books on spirituality and quantum theory, like the Law of Attraction, the Law of Abundance, and so on, and I understand that everything is energy. We vibrate with energy that depends on the kind of emotion we're experiencing at any given moment. And like a magnet, negative emotion pulls in more negative emotion. So I've made it a habit each morning to set my intention to be positive. My pep talk goes something like this: Today you're going to have a good day, and something unexpected will happen.  And it does. It might be little, but it'll make me smile.

I wonder if I can send a positive intention to the Mr. Grumps floating outside my window.

Have a positively great week.

19 comments:

Gram said...

Must try that bubble! :-)

Karen in Ohio said...

Kate, we met, what, two years ago, when we had ice cream in Columbus? Since then, you have rapidly become one of my favorite people, largely because of this wonderful attitude.

Someone very spiritual once taught me the way to deflect anger, and it's similar. Instead of getting angry at the person tailgating you, or the family member who keeps being passive-aggressive, calm yourself and think of them with unconditional love. It's incredibly powerful, and I've watched drivers who have tailgated me for miles drop back five car lengths instantly.

I wish I'd remembered this recently.

Anonymous said...

Loved it...great advice!

Kate Collins said...

Karen, we are of like minds. I recognized that in you when we were slurping those delicious desserts. This is an amazing tool.

Kate Collins said...

Thanks Patricia.

Kate Collins said...

You can imagine it around your car when you're driving, too.

katherine is love said...

I love this post and I couldn't agree more with what you have written. I do the best I can to project positive energy into the universe and think positive thoughts. I hope I am teaching my son the same, so he doesn't get lost in a web of self destruction and negativity like I did for many years. I think it has made me healthier both mentally and physically, and truly a more enjoyable person to be around (I like being around myself a lot more these days!)

It is something I wish many people I worked with would try. Sometimes the negative energy is so bad in the office I have to take a break and walk around for a while, clearing my head. I refuse to let someone elses bad mood ruin my day. This is empowering for me and really makes me feel better, inside and out.

Karen in Ohio said...

:-)

Maggie Sefton said...

Amen, Kate. :) It's amazing how a "life change" provides us with a wonderful opportunity to literally "remake" our lives and ourselves. You and I have talked about this a lot over the years, and it's encouraging to see more people realizing the energy dynamic at work. And to Katherine is love----Keep it up. You're doing exactly the right thing to disperse that negative cloud. Years ago I had to do the same thing in my office with those negative comments. I'd take a coffee break and go outside, even if it was cold, to clear my head and center myself in the positive energy. It works. And it makes us stronger.

Lisa Ks Book Reviews said...

I know a few grumpy geese.One message or text from them, and it's like a dark cloud covering the sun. But my laugh is on the grumpy geese...I love dark clouds! Bring on the rain!

Grandma Cootie said...

Sending a positive message to The Grumps. Wouldn't that make things nicer for all of us. I like your pep talk. I guess we just have to keep trying (or go into our own bubble and let them grump on). If we don't start out feeling it will be a great day, how could it possibly be a great day?

Kate Collins said...

I'm glad you enjoyed it, Katherine. I wonder if you could get in a little early and clear out the negative energy that's probably stuck there with a burning sage stick. What other positive things would help . . . thinking out loud here. Maybe posting an inspirational sign by your desk about the Law of Attraction? Hmm.

Kate Collins said...

Good advice, Maggie. I wish we lived closer so we could commune more. We're on the same path, my Cozy sister

Kate Collins said...

Great attitude, Lisa. Have you noticed that if you keep sending back only positive responses, they eventually quit texting?

Kate Collins said...

I suppose it's never too late in the day to ask for it to get better. I even ask at night for a good night's sleep. Ask and ye shall receive. it's the Law of Attraction at work.

Mary Jane Maffini said...

Great post, Kate! I am often astounded by the grumps of the world. Your positive attitude is contagious and I love your pep talk. Adopting it immediately.

XO

MJ

Rebecca Prazak said...

Wish I'd known about this three years ago when I was still working, it would have made my life so much better and less stressful.

katherine is love said...

Those are fantastic ideas, Kate. Thanks! I am going to try that. I'll look up some other ideas to do too. It does get exhausting sometimes dealing with people who are constantly in a grumpy/bad mood.

Vicki said...

I can "testify" that it really makes a difference to state out loud, "we are not saying anything negative today!" For 9 months I worked for a closing attorney as a temp and at the end of the month it was crazy busy since we would do 8 closings in a day. The two women who worked in the office with me would grump, groan, moan, complain, etc. all day. By the end of the day I'd be so exhausted and ugghhh, I couldn't stand it.

One morning I went in and said, no more. Every time they would start up, I'd say no no...no complaining today! It was amazing how much lighter I felt at the end of the day.

They even admitted the day had gone much better than they had thought it would (seeing as it was the VERY last day of the month). All because all the moaning, etc. didn't happen. I've always thought it was kind of funny that they let me get away with telling them - NO COMPLAINING today...