Saturday, January 18, 2014

Your Absolute YES list

by Mary Kennedy
            A lot of readers told me they could really connect with last week's S.M.A.R.T method for goal-setting. (it's always nice to hear that these little hints help!) A couple of people asked me if there was some simple mantra they could use to help them stay on track with their goals. It's so easy to get distracted, and we all have so many obligations.
      Here's a secret that I use with my clients. I ask them to make an absolute YES list and look at it several times a day.  It's simple and effective. Choose the three most *important* things you want to accomplish in the next month or two. It could be work-related, it could be a home renovation project, or it might be making plans to recharge and relax. But you can only pick three.

       Now that you've identified the three items on your list, write them down and post them in several places in the house--especially by the phone. The next time you're faced with a new obligation, an invitation, a request, ask yourself: Does this match any of the three goals on my "YES" list? Because if not, the answer has to be NO. Don't over-think it, don't prevaricate. It will feel uncomfortable saying "no," in the beginning, but you'll soon appreciate the extra hours you have to say "yes" to your goals! If a month or two seems too daunting, try your "Absolute Yes" list for a week and see what happens. You may feel more calm, more in control of your time, and more productive. Mary Kennedy


Lynda said...

Good advice Mary. The hardest part would be narrowing it down to 3, but definitely worth trying.

mary kennedy said...

Hi Lynda, glad you liked it! And yes, it is hard to limit it to three, I hear ya!

Denise Rodgers said...

I make a daily list and that helps keep me grounded. Having a 3-goal written list sounds like a great idea!

mary kennedy said...

Hi Denise, thanks for stopping by! I've found it helpful to keep my "yes" list by the phone and am gradually getting over feeling guilty at saying, "no."