Saturday, January 12, 2013

A Different Kind of Resolution

By Ellery Adams

Yes, I've started the typical New Year's diet and have other goals for 2013, but this year, I've decided to launch a different, more lasting resolution. I've been thinking about how I've primarily used my writing to entertain adults, but I haven't written anything meaningful for my own children.

This year, I decided to start writing letters to my children. They'll be little snapshots - brief memories captured in print instead of on film or video. I'll keep them all in a computer file (with a back-up or two) and when they're leaving for college or getting married or whatever the milestone may be, I'll present them with a book of bound letters. Of memories. Of love.

Here's an example of one I wrote for Troll #2 (aka Sophie):

I was vacuuming today and you asked if you could help. I said “sure” and showed you how to use the vacuum. You made me smile because the thing is about as tall as you are and yet, there you were, pushing it all around the kitchen. I watched you and thought (for the hundredth time) how I never worry about you. You are going to be okay no matter what you end up doing as an adult. Do you know why? Because at six years old, you already possess the two most important traits a person can have. Kindness and joy. You have many other wonderful traits too. You're smart, beautiful, and lots of fun. But above all else, you are kind and full of joy. So I never worry about you. I just watch you light up rooms and make people smile.

What do you think of my idea? Have you ever written a letter for a family member and saved it for later? Did you ever receive one?


Lynda said...

I think it's a great idea. I'm sure your kids will love reading them later in their lives. For many years, my mom kept journals - one a year. Some were just in steno pads, some in bound books. She wrote in them almost every day. She included a lot of day to day stuff, as well as the major happenings. After she passed away, I brought the journals home, but wasn't able to look at them right then. However, years later I got them out and they have been such a blessing to me. As I read, I continually comment - "Oh, I remember that" or "Wow, I forgot about that". It also has provided dates and time frames for past events. I started keeping a journal myself, and maybe someday my family will read them and enjoy the memories the way I have enjoyed my mom's.

Dru said...

That is a brilliant idea.

Lori Cimino said...

What a wonderful idea. They will treasure them I am sure. I have written letters to my sons and husband a couple of times before I went in to surgery....just in case but then I destroyed them. Might be time to re-write because sometimes life throws you a curveball.
This is just an example of why I love ya Ellery.

Jeannie D. said...

What a beautiful idea! I am sure your children will treasure them as they get older too. Even though you know your parents love you, it would still be nice to have something to hold and read whenever you needed a boost.

Fred said...

That's a wonderful idea, Ellery. #2 will love it and #1 might say "aww mom". But they will both appreciate them.

My mother kept one, and I think it was a school project from the lower grades, for Mother's Day.

The one that my mother kept was one I wrote to a company who had a "box top offer". It was for plastic HO model train cars. When I got my order one of the cars was missing. So I wrote the company, explaining the problem. I think they did make good on the shortage. I guess since I wrote all myself, around 10 years old, mother kept a copy.

Aurian said...

This is a wonderful idea! And going on a diet, does that mean no more of those gorgeous cookie pictures on facebook?

ANNETTE said...

I think your children are very blessed.

Ellery Adams said...

Oh Aurian, no more cookies right now, but I'm still making pies!