Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Introverts Unite!

by Deb Baker/Hannah Reed


I’m an introvert and proud of it! When I was a girl, I thought something was seriously wrong with me - few friends, holed up in my room reading until my mother dragged me out to socialize, public speaking really freaked me out and I avoided it like swine flu... I liked animals more than people:)...

Now that I'm wearing big girl pants, I've found a comfortable sense of self and I'm okay with me.

We introverts aren’t misfits or weirdos. We grow up to be scientists, musicians, philosophers, artists, poets, writers.... Add traits like flexible, independent, the most loyal friends, creative…the list goes on and on.

Here’s a little about us:
  • We don’t follow the crowd. We march to a different drummer.
  • Yes, we talk, but only if we have something to say.
  • We don't need a gaggle of friends, just a few really cherished ones.
  • Sure, we like to go out, but not for as long. We need to recharge often.
  • Interaction is best one on one, not within a big crowd.
  • Our idea of relaxing is at home or in nature.
  • No, we aren't shy, but we are more observers than participants. Go ahead, talk to us.
  • Introverts think a lot, tend to daydream, solve puzzles, read books and books and more books.
 See, we aren't so bad. Just a little different.

Introverts, you probably know who you are. For the undecided, here’s a test you can take to find out.

Introverts unite! Stand up and be counted!

22 comments:

FirstOfMay said...

Thank you, Deb! I really needed to read this tonight. I was beginningtot think something was wrong with me. You described me to a "T"! I've found that as I get older, I'm becoming more introverted. Also, I find that lately, I do only talk when I have something to say, which makes it difficult when you live at home with your mom, who likes to talk A LOT (Especially in the morning when you just wake up and are NOT a morning person). I have never been good at small talk. As a matter of fact, my mom was home all night tonight, and I don't think I said more than 3 sentences to her all night.

I have very few friends--and actually they are mostly online friends as opposed to "real life" friends, although I found out recently that some people are only pretending to like me and never liked me in the first place, which tends to make me more introverted. I also like/need A LOT of time alone, which I rarely get. And by "alone", I mean an entire day in the house by myself is heaven to me.

My mother understands none of this. So I'm glad to finally find someone who understands.

P.S. I'm a Leo, which totally contradicts the whole introvert thing. Talk about mixed messages! LOL!

Mardel said...

Oh wow - not only was I an introvert, but I as also painfully shy as a child. when people talked to me all I heard was a roaring in my ears...unless i was with my family. Then I was the noisiest, the most talkative, and quite an actor. but only for short periods of time.

I'm still happier at home than anywhere else. I would rather people come to my house than to go anywhere else, and am just as comfortable reading on the couch while all my kids are around visiting. Their dad is an extrovert (no idea how we ended up together) so he visits with them while I just bask in the company. :)

Tempewytch said...

did the test and got 29 out of 29 :) I thought I was introverted!

Aurian said...

Lol, I will be doing that test, but everything you list is relevant for me, except for the creative part. Not a creative, artistic or musical bone in my body!

Deb said...

First of May, your mom might benefit from reading this post. I know my husband will:)

Aurian, I can't draw a straight line or sing on-key, and I was 45 before I found out I could write! Keep looking. You have talent!

Dru said...

I'm standing up, because this is so me. Lately I've been calling myself a recluse because I prefer to stay indoors with my book and craft projects. I'll go out for a little while but I cherish those moments when I walk through my door.

Deb said...

I really have to push myself to go out and do things, too. Otherwise, I'd turn into a hermit!

Sue said...

This is so me!!! Now I can show this to my girls and maybe they will stop hounding me to "get a life" Thanks so much Deb!!!

Jeannie D. said...

Wow! This is so me. I had rather be at home with my Husband, my cats and my books than anywhere else. Especially as I get older. I took the test and got 26 out of 29. Guess that proves it. I play musical instruments, and I do crafts so I have always been creative. I have an idea for a book that has swirled in my brain for a long time. Nice to know I am not weird after all. Thanks Deb!

Kate said...

I consider myself an introvert. I have few friends, prefer time alone, definitely enjoy my books. Over the years, though, I've worked in fields (briefer, tour guide, teacher) where I "learned" another behavior, but I am who I am. :)

Kate said...

I am a Leo, too. People think we should always be "roaring". They can't believe there are quiet lionesses.

ladyvyvian said...

I am an introvert and enjoy it. First of May - hang in there, it will get better as you get older. You will find true friends who will cherish you as you are.

I craft and sew, I have done a little amateur writing but have never tried to publish because I do not have the drive for it.

Robyn said...

You've described me perfectly! I've always preferred to sit down with a good book than be in a crowd of people. I'm an introvert and proud of it!

Barbara said...

This describes me perfectly. I love to travel alone too. My husband is the only person I've ever been able to spend hours on end with and not feel like I need to escape. Lucky for me I found him, right? I have good friends but we stay in touch online rather than in person and I'm happier that way. Every time I hear of a murderer being called a loner, I get angry - many of us are loners without having crazy violent thoughts.

Breaunna Miller said...

That describes me perfectly! I'd much rather be at home than out in public. I've always thought I was strange because I'm not a "people person" I prefer the company of animals or the characters in whatever book I'm reading at the moment. As I'm getting older, I've really come to accept this trait and can appreciate the fact that I'm pretty independent and don't have to worry about fitting in with a certain crowd just because everyone else does it. It's nice to know I'm not alone out there and I'm not weirdo or a freak. I'm just me!

Lynda said...

There are definitely a lot of us out there (we just didn't realize it because we are introverted and don't talk about it to others - lol). I have always been an introvert, but over the years have forced myself to be more outgoing in certain circumstances - not a good thing to do to myself, because I'm never really comfortable trying to be someone I'm not. I still get out and visit with people and go to social gatherings, but I am so much more comfortable at home with small groups of people.

I am so much more comfortable with animals than people - which is why I volunteer at the shelter and foster and rescue cats/kittens. I have several very dear friends (30-40 years together), but don't make new friends quickly. I think that's why social media has been so good for me. I can visit with others, learn about their lives and families, and share my thoughts and feelings, without having to do a face-to-face, which I'm not great at. I have really enjoyed my "chats" with the Cozy Chicks. You are a great group of ladies - down-to-earth and "real" (and you all seem to love animals, which is a definite plus!)

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Lisa DuVal said...

Well Said. I'm an introvert and proud of if.

JJM said...

[laughs] Well, let's just put it this way. When I was 5, my mother decided to throw me a birthday party. I didn't ask for one, she simply thought I was old enough now and invited a group of the neighbourhood children. Games, ice cream, cake, you know the drill. She suddenly realized, however, that she hadn't seen me in a while ... She finally found me in a space between the couch and the wall, happily curled up with one of the books I'd gotten as a present, and totally unwilling to come out. So she finished the party without me. She had fun, the kids had fun ... and so did I, in my way! --Mario R.

Anonymous said...

Funny.."Introverts unite!" As if we would..Well, maybe here we would, in the safety/anonymity of an internet forum. Glad to know "my kind" are out there. Thanks, Deb.

Deb said...

Thank you everyone for being part of this dialogue.

Anonymous, that is funny. I didn't catch the irony:)

Linda McDonald said...

Cheers to all the intoverts! I love being an introvert. Would not have it any other way! :)