Sunday, July 8, 2012

Did I Fall Off the Stupid Truck?

by Leann

Many of you who follow our blog know we have our house for sale. You can imagine how excited we were to get more than one offer right away. We chose what we thought was the best deal. We signed an earnest money contract. We started packing with a fury. We made plans on how we would accomplish our impending move.

There were red flags, there was fine print. I didn't ask the right questions. Not once but twice the prospective buyers had me drop what I was doing so they could "look again." On one of the occasions, I was in the middle of grocery shopping and though I wasn't finished, I checked out, rushed home, hurriedly gathered my pets and crammed them into the car so my presence would not be felt. (Don't want people to actually think we LIVE in our house, after all.) Then, four days later, after we believed everything was settled, I got another call. The buyer wanted another look.

That's when I got that sick feeling in my stomach that all was not as I thought it was. But though I had just come from the chiropractor because dragging litter boxes and a big cat into my car numerous times--oh, and dealing with a very strong little hyper dog--had taken a toll on my body, I did as I was told. Cat, dog, crate, litter box all went into my car and off I went to wait out this latest "has to be right now" visit. The call that the "contract has been terminated by the buyer" came shortly after. They found something better.

Great. I didn't understand the little "option" clause that basically said for $100 we would be required to take our house off the market while the buyers who put their names on a contract were free to keep shopping. In other words, we got jerked around. The contract meant everything to us and nothing to them.

This has been a problem for me all my life. I believe people will do the right thing, will act with integrity and will consider how their actions affect others. These people used the law to their advantage. They got what they wanted. I hope they bought a wonderful house. What they won't have, nor do they deserve, is an awesome house that has withstood storms and hurricanes, has been filled with laughter and joy and a loving family for more than twenty years.

This is a good karma house. For those people, karma might end up being a bitch. And, for the happy ending, we got a better offer 2 days later from people who fell in love with this good karma house immediately. Everything happens for a reason. :-)

How about you? Did you have a major disappointment that in the end turned out to be the best thing that could have happened? I'd love to hear.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

Many years ago in Florida I drove buyers (a couple) around and around and around picking them up at their fdoor and leaving them off a their door showing them houses that met their criteria. Then one day they invited me to lunch (with me picking up and driving)to let me know they had decided on another house in another county in a sub division. that meant, Yep you guessed it, I received not a penny for all my hard working and driving and gas.

Min said...

When I applied to law school, I applied to five schools -- two in Chicago (a city I LOVE), two in my home state of MO, and Temple (a school I'd never heard of, but had a great program in specifically what I wanted to study, and they wouldn't stop trying to recruit me, so... okay.)

Neither of the Chicago schools wanted me. One of them wasn't a surprise (it was a bit of a stretch, anyway, but I wanted to apply just in case), but the other one rejecting me REALLY stung. But both schools in my homestate and Temple accepted me. One homestate and Temple offered scholarships.

I ended up moving halfway across the country to go to Temple. Although I dropped out of law school, I have now lived in Philly for over 13 years. I LOVE this city, I've made some great friends here, and I can't imagine living anywhere else.

And it's all because some schools in Chicago couldn't be bothered with me. I thank them every once in awhile for thinking I'm a big loser. :)

Aimee Hix said...

Long story short ...

Former fiance disappeared without a trace, literally. Two months later met Eric at a party and became good friends; a year and a half later we started dating; two years after that we got married.

So thank you, cowardly former fiance!

Leann Sweeney said...

Everything happens for a reason. I will always believe that, even though during a moment of huge disappointment, it's hard to understand! But look what happened to Min and Aimee!

Barb Goffman said...

Aimee, you were engaged and he just disappeared? Were the police involved? I'm fascinated by your horrible situation (which thankfully had a happy ending for you). The mystery writer in me wants to know more.

Lynda said...

Like Aimee, I also had an ex-fiance. He skipped the state and left me with $80,000 of his debts. For years my bills were more than my paycheck. It has taken me a lot of years to pay off the debts (and others I ran up trying to survive during that time - I ate a lot of soup and mac and cheese). But now I am retired and have a comfortable life. I constantly thank God that I never married the jerk. One lesson I learned from this is that I'm much stronger than I thought I was (I do have some trust issues, but I'm working on those). But even more important6 is that I learned how to live without a lot of the "extras" in life. For instance, I gave up TV service and instead read or do crafts. If I hadn't learned to do without the extras, I don't think I would have felt that I could retire, but I'm doing just fine. I am involved in animal (cat) rescue and fostering and I really do like my life.

Leann Sweeney said...

What a great story, Lynda! You have proven that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I feel much more at ease with this current offer. Like it's "supposed to be."

Lizzie said...

After being in a relationship for several years, my fiance and I started looking at homes to buy. He always had this "gut feeling" right before we were ready to put earnest money out and didn't sign the contract. This happened a few times. I thought, good, at least he goes with his gut if something doesn't feel right and nips it in the bud. In hind-sight, it was really a symptom of his fear of commitment and responsibility.

A few years later we married. This time it was ME that had a gut feeling, unfortunately after the ceremony. He was developing a horrible drinking problem among other things. I got out of the marriage quickly.

Not only was I THANKFUL for all of his "gut feelings" of the past (we parted with NO shared debts, property, kids, etc.), but I also learned how naive I was and how strong I was becoming! I've learned a lot in the last two years about how I was treating MYSELF and have worked hard to overcome a lot and will HOPEFULLY (keep your fingers crossed) NEVER find myself in the middle of a situation like that again!

Leann Sweeney said...

Wow, Lizzie. I am so glad you got out of the situation. You are a strong person. My mother was an alcoholic and I know there is nothing harder than dealing with an addict. You can lose your identity because of it. You didn't and you are better for it. Thank you for sharing this and I doubt you'll find yourself in the middle of anything like that again. You're too smart!

Cathy said...

Recently I applie for a different job..one I would have done very well in. I had the support of many of the people I would be supervising. Three days before the interview, the person I would be replacing asked to withdraw his resignation. They let him and I never even got a chance to share my plans and ideas. I'm still waiting to see what will be better about not getting the job, but I am determined to stay positive.

Leann Sweeney said...

It will happen Cathy. And staying positive is all part of it. Good for you!

lavendersbluegreen said...

I am so sorry this happened to you. I really hope that you will find the right buyers soon.

Annette said...

WOW - I don't know whether other blogs have readers who are strong, successful people, but this one certainly does. Y'all have overcome odds, become more successful because of adversity, and generally survived and shone likes stars in the sky.

Congratulations to each of you.

Leann, the home buyers are not going to have the happiness they might have had....their loss.

Leann Sweeney said...

Annette, we have the BEST readers ever! Thanks for saying this. :-)

Aurian said...

I am so happy you already found buyers for your house Leann! Congrats on that!
And congrats on any of you who have overcome such difficulties!