Sunday, February 12, 2012

You Wonder Why We Saved All This Stuff? Really?

by Leann

The purging continues at our house in anticipation of our retirement to South Carolina. My husband is working on the attic now and it is quite the eye opener to see all that stuff spread out upstairs. Since I am allergic to anything that comes out of the attic and I start wheezing the minute I open the attic door, he's pulling it out and I am donning a mask and going through the boxes and bags.

Most of it is in pretty terrible shape because it probably gets to about 140 degrees in the attic during our tropical summers here in south Texas. The amount of garbage is, to be honest, pathetic. Some of it could have been given away rather than stashed away to sit and rot up there. And thus we come to the title of this blog.

Since my husband has had to cart many many boxes and bags either to the curb or the Goodwill in the last few months, he finally asked the question I've been waiting for: "Why did we save all this stuff?" Oh, I was ready. "Why did we? Why, you ask? Because of you!" I said rather forcefully.

Every time I tried to throw things away over the years, he would protest. If I set out items I no longer used or were worn out for the garbage collectors, he would "rescue" them. Back inside they would come. I gave up the fight long ago. Why go through the frustration of making a decision only to have it overturned without appeal?

For once, after I said the words "Because of you," I got no argument. He has no defense. And now he's serving his "hard time" on work detail. :-) I didn't rub it in and say "It would have been so much easier if way back in 1979 ..." I didn't need to.

What about you? Any hoarder-esque types among your family or friends?

16 comments:

Deb said...

Sounds exactly like our house. He actually goes through the outside garbage and 'rescues' junk. I have to get really sneaky.

Leann Sweeney said...

At times I was sneaky, but the big stuff is hard to hide, especially when he takes out the trash. Even crappy baskets that flower arrangements or plants came in--the kind with plastic liners?--he has even saved all those. Well, he can throw them out. And now, this morning, after he told me to go through a certain bag, I earmarked it as trash. What did he say? "Are you really going to throw all that stuff out?" Sheesh!!! Frustration continues!

Katreader said...

I guess I'm your husband's twin. Yes, I am very close to being a hoarder. I've actually spent 2 days last week at my folks' clearing out some of my old stuff from their house. My mom wanted the room plus "better to go through it now, you'll have to at some point". Gee, thanks for that reminder, Ma. I actually did throw/donate some stuff away. And yes, it really did pain me to do so. I also brought a lot back to my house. Now I just need to find somewhere to put it all...

Kuzlin said...

I have been trying to clean out our basement and garage for months now. Each time I make a pile for the garbage, my husband comes in and says he might need that stuff! My philosophy is if you haven't used it in 10 years, throw it out! Men!!!

Queen Lizz said...

My husband would throw our this entire household of stuff... I am the rescuer. :(

ev said...

When we got married 15 years ago and I moved my daughter and our stuff into the house, we added it to: his late wife's stuff, his parents stuff (it was their house first), his grand parents stuff, his late wife's parents stuff and the stuff all his kids left when they moved out. We are talking 60 years or more of stuff. I am trying, slowly but surely to clean it all out. When I find stuff I don't know what to do with, I either ask him, the kids or donate/trash it. On the other hand, I have really curtailed my own buying of stuff because of it.

Someday I may find the basement.

Leann Sweeney said...

I, too, have stopped buying things! Well, most things. :-) It seems I have way more stuff than I can ever use.

Laura W said...

I love this post. I can relate to every single word. Deb, you need to share some of your "sneakies". I have a few of my own, but I need more.

Shirley said...

Since I retired, I have been going through my stuff to see what I can get out of the house. I have donated lots of clothing. If an item of clothing was something I really liked, I took a picture of it to keep the memory. It feels good to donate stuff I don't need but someone else can use!

Leann Sweeney said...

I agree. I gave away boxes and boxes of shoes--really GOOD shoes that hurt my feet. It just felt good that someone would have a nice pair of shoes to wear and feel good about their bargain at the Goodwill store!

Velvet625 said...

I am the guilty one here. Used to be I couldn't let anything go and DH would pick things out of the storage in the garage and toss them. Once when we moved he said these boxes have been packed for three years, seriously do we need the stuff? Ahh yes its my stuff. Now that I'm decluttering he is the one holding on or was till I started insisting. The clutter is going away!!!!

Vickie said...

My DH says I am the packrat, but he is just as guilty when it comes to certain items like some of his magazines or anything that his sister has sent to our daughter. We don't put those in the giveaway boxes, those go in the crawlspace in the 'mancave'. Ah well....

I do keep some things and I do have an inordinate amount of books.....hmmmm....

Leann Sweeney said...

I have to admit I parted with a LOT of books in the last few months--but NOT my Agatha Christie paperbacks that got me through some very difficult times a long time ago. :-0

Shirley said...

I also have lots of books I need to donate but will keep my Agatha Christie books and other favorites. Leann, how did you decide which ones to donate and where did you donate them?

Leann Sweeney said...

I donated my books to the Goodwill after visiting a store and seeing how many people were gathered around the book rack. The money earned from the sale of those books goes to a good cause. I also answer the call when folks want book donations for the troops and sent two boxes out before Christmas. :-)

Aurian said...

Lol! So great.