Wednesday, February 8, 2012

The Mysterious Male Explained

by Deb Baker/Hannah Reed

Guys are simple… women are not simple and they always assume that men must be just as complicated as they are, only way more mysterious. The whole point is guys are not thinking much. They are just what they appear to be. Tragically.” ~ Dave Barry

I really wish I’d read that quote eons ago. It might have saved me countless years of frustration. Hours of trying to figure out what my significant other really meant by some random comment he’d made. Always digging deep into his psyche, wanting desperately to understand the inexplicable.

Hubby and I went on a trip once – six hours together in the car. I popped an audiobook into the CD player called Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus (remember that oldie goldie?).

My guy displayed his remarkable sense of humor and actually listened to it (talk about a captive audience). According to John Gray, men are problem solvers. If you and I have a bad day and complain about it to him, all we want is for him to hug us, love us, tell us how awful that must have been, rub our shoulders.

But no, he thinks he has to fix it.

“Did you try this?” He asks. Then, “You should have said/done this.” And eventually, “Next time….”

By the time he’s done making suggestions and pointing out what I should have done, he’s become my bad day.

Back to my husband story before I go off on a tangent. When we were home from our trip for a few days, I mentioned that the garbage was piling up. His response, “I feel for you, sweetie. Come here. Let me rub your shoulders.”

Smart ass.

Anyway, sometimes I need a reminder that we really are wired differently. Today, I’m going to take it in stride. I suggest you do the same.


Merry Lu said...

Thanks for the chuckle. And the reminder.

Maggie Sefton said...

LOL at your husband's comment concerning garage. Since I know Jim, I find it especially funny. :). Too funny.

E.J. Copperman said...

Sometimes I think men are from New Jersey and women are from... I'm not sure. Somewhere in the Midwest?

Nancy said...

So funny, Deb!

Vickie said...


I love my husband dearly, but he can make me nuts. I am blessed, though. He likes to shop and shop sales and he chooses the best gifts. That's what I remind myself when he does one of his things that makes me go *argh*

Aurian said...

Lol, I even had my boyfriend laughing over this.

Maureen Hayes said...

Hey a man who listened to that book with you and still has a sense of humor about it days later sounds like a gem! Thanks for the chuckle, I needed it today!

Mina Lobo said...

1. I never bought into the idea that women prefer sympathy to solutions. If I've got a problem and someone helps me figure out what to do about it, rock on!

2. Kudos to your mate for listening and learning. ;-)