by Deb Baker/Hannah Reed
“Guys are simple… women are not simple and they always assume that men must be just as complicated as they are, only way more mysterious. The whole point is guys are not thinking much. They are just what they appear to be. Tragically.” ~ Dave Barry
I really wish I’d read that quote eons ago. It might have saved me countless years of frustration. Hours of trying to figure out what my significant other really meant by some random comment he’d made. Always digging deep into his psyche, wanting desperately to understand the inexplicable.
Hubby and I went on a trip once – six hours together in the car. I popped an audiobook into the CD player called Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus (remember that oldie goldie?).
My guy displayed his remarkable sense of humor and actually listened to it (talk about a captive audience). According to John Gray, men are problem solvers. If you and I have a bad day and complain about it to him, all we want is for him to hug us, love us, tell us how awful that must have been, rub our shoulders.
But no, he thinks he has to fix it.
“Did you try this?” He asks. Then, “You should have said/done this.” And eventually, “Next time….”
By the time he’s done making suggestions and pointing out what I should have done, he’s become my bad day.
Back to my husband story before I go off on a tangent. When we were home from our trip for a few days, I mentioned that the garbage was piling up. His response, “I feel for you, sweetie. Come here. Let me rub your shoulders.”
Anyway, sometimes I need a reminder that we really are wired differently. Today, I’m going to take it in stride. I suggest you do the same.