Friday, January 27, 2012

Not So Camera Shy

By Heather Blake / Heather Webber

It’s about that time again. Time for my official author photo to be updated. It’s been a couple of years, and even though I haven’t changed all that much (just a few more wrinkles!), it’s good to keep current.

Once upon a time, the thought of having my picture taken would have freaked me out. I didn’t like cameras. Posing. Anything about it. A trait I figured I inherited from my photo-phobic mom.

Then, about five years ago, as I was going through old photo albums, I realized something. I hardly had any pictures of my mother. And barely had any photos (maybe one or two) of me and my mother together.

It was a light bulb moment. I suddenly realized that there were hardly any pictures of me with my kids. Lots of the kids. Tons. Albums full. But not too many of us together (like mother like daughter!). Not of the baking lessons, the puzzles, the bedtime stories. Not of trips to the park, swims in the pool, playing in the yard. And it made me sad. Full of regret. All those Kodak moments I missed capturing forever. Because I was camera shy. It suddenly seemed so silly.

From that point on, I've made a point of being in pictures. It’s not easy, I’ll admit, but I’d rather be in a photo than not. I’m a long way from being a ham, but when I get my next author shots taken, I’ll definitely be saying cheese. And the pics with my kids? Just try keeping me out of them! I’m making up for lost time. It doesn't quite wipe out the regret, but it helps.

Are you camera shy? A ham? Somewhere in between?


Merry Lu said...

What a great picture of you with your beautiful smile. It made me smile to read that you're making a point to be in pictures - I treasure so much the pictures of our family when we were growing up, especially the ones with Mom and/or Dad in them. We just did a photo/story book for my dad for Christmas and it was a good feeling to have lots of pictures to choose from.

Aurian said...

I'm like you I guess. I see no point in having pictures of myself. But I like to make a lot of pictures, and do have enough of my family, friends and boyfriend. Don't often look at them, but I have them. Still see no point in being in a picture myself just for me.

Aimee said...

I, too, had that realization, Heather. I was lucky in that it happened when the Doll was just a baby and I could make sure I was in pictures with her always.

And my mother was the same way about pictures. She didn't want to be in them and would sabotage you if you tried. Needless to say, she never thought about what would happen when she died. We have only a few pictures of my mom now - mostly our wedding photos - but we have one of her holding the Doll the day we came home from the hospital that I treasure.

Ellery Adams said...

Heather, I am totally the same way and I had the same "flashbulb" moment this summer. I still haven't made much progress because I'm always taking all the pictures, but I love the camera on my computer because I can squeeze the trolls in tight and press a button!

Breaunna Miller said...

Growing up w/ a Dad who is a professional photographer, being in pictures and having mine taken hasn't been so scary. Although, now that I'm getting older I've started to not enjoy having my picture taken as much. I have tons of pictures of my nieces though and lot's of silly pictures of us together. I definetly like the silly candid pictures over the posed kind.

ev said...

See, you have a great smile and take a great picture. Me? not so much. My daughter is the pro photographer in the family and she knows if she wants to get me in one, it has to be on the sly. Of course, she is not better.

Dru said...

I'm camera shy and I'm always the one taking the pictures.

Heather Blake Webber said...

Merry Lu, what a great gift. I'm sure he treasures it.

Aurian, I didn't think it was important, either! Hindsight can be evil. :)

Aimee, I'm so glad you realized it early on. I wish I had.

Heather Blake Webber said...

Ellery, I haven't tried that tactic. I'll have to give it a go. :)

Breaunna, I love candid shots too. Much more natural and "in the moment."

Ev, get in the picture! Your daughter will treasure them. Try to get her in one with you, though. ;)

Dru Ann, we'll work on that. Mwa-ha-ha!

Adrienne said...

Hi Heather. I'm so glad you've jumped into those pictures. We have a friend whose mother died suddenly at 64. When the family went to put a photo board together for the memorial, they realized they had only a very few pictures. So now our friend has encouraged everyone to "jump into those pictures". It's really a gift to your family. PS. I love your books! Keep up the good work.

Heather Blake Webber said...

Thank you, Adrienne. I'm jumping in! And hope everyone else at least thinks about it. Hindsight hit me hard--want to spare everyone else that kind of regret.