Monday, August 22, 2011

Knob Appeal

by Kate Collins
Sometimes it’s the smallest changes that make the biggest impact. Like changing your eye shadow or lipstick color, or having your nails done. Even painting your front door a new color can give a house a whole new style. In my case, it was the knobs on my kitchen cabinets.
Since my husband passed away, my life has been in a constant flux of change. Big changes. Painful, heart-wrenching upheavals. They weren’t my choice, but they’re what I have, and I’m determined to make the best of them and be happy. One method that helps me deal with all those large changes is to make small modifications to my world. It gives me back the feeling of control that I’d lost.
My house came with cherry cabinets in the kitchen, bathrooms, and even laundry rooms. Lots and lots of cabinets and all with shiny brass knobs. When we bought new appliances a few years back, we went with stainless, and slowly the small appliances were switched over, too. We bought counter stools in pewter, as well, so you can understand how those bright brass knobs stood out. Like sore thumbs, basically.
So I trotted down to Menards and bought snappy brushed nickel knobs. I spent a few hours happily replacing the old ones and then stood back to see my handiwork. The brushed nickel blends in with the wood so well, you hardly notice them, and yet what a difference they make. My kitchen looks modern and new.
Silly topic for a blog, right? But I got to thinking about it and decided that maybe the knobs in my kitchen could represent a small change we can make in our lives. Perhaps it is only a nail color. But maybe instead it could be an attitude adjustment. Perhaps in place of sitting at a railroad crossing, stewing at the delay, you can meditate or pray or do deep breathing exercises. Perhaps while standing in a long line, you can gaze out the window and be grateful for living to see another day.
What small change would you like to make in your life?
Or in your kitchen.


Sarita said...

Good for you with your new kitchen knobs. I think it's great that you're making changes that bring you peace.

Honestly, the small change I'm going to make today is to remember this post. I especially liked your line about trying to make the best and be happy. I'm doing the same here. It helps to know I'm not alone, although I'm so sorry you're on the widow's path, too.

Wishing you a peaceful day. Great post, thank you.

Vicki said...

Hi Kate,
No topic is a silly one if it means something to you! I am not very handy, but do try to paint a room in my house each summer, which makes a huge change. It's slow going (many body aches!) but I take my time, and I feel so accomplished when it's done. It's something I can do from beginning to end without help, so it makes me feel extremely productive. And it just so happens it was my kitchen that I finished painting just last week. :) Enjoy your handiwork!

Dru said...

Great post and you're so right that small changes make a big difference.

Kate Collins said...

Thanks, ladies.

Sarita, I heard widowhood described as the club no one wants to belong to. That's fitting, isn't it? I wrote a blog last year about happiness being in the small moments of life, and that's what I'm finding now. If I look ahead to the future, I can get very blue, but right now, sitting here reading these comments, drinking a cup of coffee, I'm at peace. Grab the small moments.

Maggie Sefton said...

That's a very wise observation, Kate. By taking a quick moment to be grateful for something in your life, we feel better. It's so simple. Just appreciate what's around us---a beautiful sunny summer day, the gorgeous colors of the flowers in your garden or your neighbor's garden or in your grocery store or hanging from planters on your city streets. For me, just being outside in Nature makes me happy. Even sitting on my backyard patio in the shade with my dogs.

ev said...

Actually, I have been following these posts since your husband died. It gives me hope for my future. My dh is quite a bit older than I am and we are realistic about who is going to outlive who. We've tried to plan and cover the things we can, but I am terrified of the day I wake up and he's not there any more.

So your posts give me hope.

And my kitchen has way too many things to change, but I did do it recently with a new fridge!!

Vickie said...

I want so badly to have as our next project to take out the wood middle of the cabinet doors and do glass front. Ideally bubble or wavy glass (unknown technical term, but I know what I want)

Aurian said...

My life changes are different at the moment. I am making room in my house and my daily pattern for my boyfriend. Cleaning out closets and throwing lots of things away to make room for him and his stuff. Luckily, I have a very big attick...
Still, it is not something I like doing. As long as it fits in a cupboard, you can always throw it away later.

Debra said...

I decided to make my bedroom a prettier,nicer place. I have arthritis and on my bad days I spend much of the day there, knitting and watching movies.
Instead of buying something, I started by simply keeping it neater. Next, I am going to hang pictures (which I already have) and add a vase of flowers from my garden. Cleaning the carpet and getting a cover for my wing chair and ottoman will complete the transformation at very little cost!

Kate Collins said...

Debra, little things do make a difference, don't they? Good for you for making a transformation.
Aurian, I think closet cleaning is cathartic. It usually makes me want to clean out more. I know -- weird.
Ev, my husband was much more realistic about his age vs. mine, and I really was in denial because he was so darn healthy and vital. I thought he'd outlive me! Better to talk about things now so you're not in the dark should the worst happen. I'm glad my blogs give you hope. I wish you and your dh the best.