Monday, February 14, 2011


by Kate Collins

It’s been four-and-a half months since my husband passed on, and to be honest, the grief is still very raw, very sharp, and I have to work hard to keep a positive attitude so I don’t get mired in self-pity. That task has been made so much easier by the support of my family, my friends, and all of you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Sometimes it’s the loneliness that hits hardest, and Valentine’s Day promised to be one of those times. Just the thought of it was enough to bring me to tears. My husband loved to give me thoughtful gifts and take me out to dinner. This Valentine’s Day will be the first in fifteen years that it won’t happen, and I really didn’t want to spend the day thinking about that.

Going out to dinner with a girlfriend was a possibility, but I had a feeling that I’d be thinking of my husband the entire time. I didn’t want to inflict that sad mood on anyone.

Then I remembered some advice my friend Maggie Sefton once gave me. She said, “Ask the Universe, Kate. It listens.” So Saturday night I asked for a way to get through Valentine’s Day without dissolving into a puddle of grief, something that would take me outside myself, get the pity party over with, and let me help someone who was worse off.

And the Universe heard me.

Last night, I got a text message from a friend telling me that an extra ticket to a charity luncheon for the local women’s shelter had come up unexpectedly. She asked if I would be her guest. What was really amazing was that this shelter had been a special cause for my husband who, as a lawyer, was a strong advocate for many abused women. And the event is on Valentine's Day.

I thought about it for about two seconds. “Yes,” I texted back. “I’d love to. Thank you!”

It promises to be a great time. You can read about it here

Whether you call this power the Universe, God, Goddess, Creator, or Divine Guidance, try asking it sometime. If you have pure intentions and the request is something that will be good for you, I promise you’ll be amazed at the results. I’d love to hear from you if it works, by the way.

And just as an afterthought along those same lines, I received a book for Christmas entitled, “Sacred Signs: Hear, See and Believe Messages from the Universe,” that you might want to check out. My daughter was browsing at a bookstore for a gift for me, and that particular book seemed to leap out at her. Hmm. A sign? I think it's one of those mysteries we'll never know the answer to. Maybe we don't need to.

Have a week of peace and happiness.

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