Thursday, February 4, 2010

Your Oldest Friend


This week I have a special guest in my house. My college roommate, with whom I roomed during both my freshmen and junior years, flew over from Germany to visit with her American friends and I’m one of them.

In order to see me, she had to rent a car in D.C., battle the traffic on Interstate 95, and then deal with the snow-covered roads in Virginia. Now that’s a friend.

Her visit will be short and we only get to see one another once a year, but we have many stories to rehash and we love to analyze what we’ve been doing during the twelve months we’ve been apart. It’s amazing how so much happens and yet, we stay basically the same.

Tonight we’ll go out to dinner. Tomorrow I’ll try to talk her into getting a pedicure because our time together is special and we should use it pampering ourselves, right?

When she drives away tomorrow afternoon, I’ll feel that little pang of loss. I’ll wish we lived closer to one another and vow to do a better job communicating with her over the next twelve months.

She and I have been friends for twenty-one years now. Isn’t that wonderful?

How about you? Who’s your oldest friend and how do you two keep in touch?


20 comments:

Jessica said...

I've moved so often in my life that I've had a hard time making really really good friends but through the power of Facebook (yay!) I ran across the best friend from Kindergarten and we basically rehashed our lives and picked up in the same spot we left on. Come to find out...I've not changed much from what she remembered and she is just as wonderful as I remembered her. She meant so much to me back then, she is the only person I actually remember from Kindergarten! ☺ On the other side, the one person I've never really lost touch with who I do consider one of my best friends is my Cousin. She means the world to me, and although we may not agree with each others decisions all of the time, we promised each other we would always support each other. Even though we only live across town from each other, we both have busy lives, and don't always see each other as often as we would like. But no matter what, we speak or text at least once a day just to check on each other and make sure things are ok.

JB, it sounds like you have a great friend, I hope you enjoy every moment with her while shes there! Happy Pedicuring!

Mare F said...

Vicki and I met when we were 13 years old. She is 8 hours younger than I am and it's just one of those relationships that picks up exactly where it left off no matter how much time has passed. I've lived all over the country in the last 38 years and yet we kept in touch by telephone through everything. She definitely knows where all of the bodies are buried. LOL

Mason Canyon said...

My best friend lives in Texas. It's not that far away (2 hour flight), but with both our crazy schedules we rarely get to visit anymore. We talk on the phone at least every other week and e-mail a lot. It is great to have a friend that no matter how long it is in between talks, you pick right back up where you left off.

Kaye said...

My best friend lives in ME and I live in FL. The distance does not deter us as we have been best friends for almost 56 ayuh, you read that right, fifty-six years! We call, e mail, send cards and visit once or twice a year. Of course it is not enough but she is and always will be the best friend anyone could have.

Sheila Connolly said...

I've got one close high school friend that I reconnected with when I moved to Massachusetts (she lives in Rhode Island). We've gotten together a few times, and it's so interesting that she's still the same sunny person she was all those years ago. (I can't trump Kaye--I met my friend in 1967.)

Leann Sweeney said...

I went from 3rd grade all the way through high school with basically the same friends and I still keep in touch with many of them. My best friend Martha (I was her maid of honor)live in CA and tho we don't connect often, we'll randomly email. We are always an email away. I remember stopping at her place when my daughter and I made a trip up the west coast. When we started talking about the rather "bad" stuff we did in high school, she saw a side of me she'd never known about--and she's never let me forget!! Thanks for reminding me of some very good times, JB!

Linda said...

My best friend and I met in Kindergarten. We have lived in the same city all our lives, so we see each other often. This year we will be celebrating our 40th birthdays together, so as you can imagine, we have experienced all of the good times and bad times together. I love having such a long time friend.

Diane P said...

One of my best friends lives in NY and I am on the West coast. We met in college and was amazed how quickly we connected. Both of us love Star Trek and wished we had a transporter to see each other more easily. Usually we talk every other week and she takes a vacation out to here every summer. We have met a couple of times at an interesting city. She came out here to take care of me when I had my surgeries so it is a mutual supportive sisterhood. We call it sisters of the heart. I have been lucky to have 3 such sisters.

Beth Groundwater said...

I was able to visit my college roommate, who lives and works in Aruba, on my recent 2-week Caribbean cruise. She picked up my hubby and me at the port, took us snorkeling and for a scenic drive around the island, for lunch at her favorite dive shop, and to her house to lounge with drinks on the porch overlooking the ocean. Her house was what I most wanted to see, and we easily picked up our conversation again from where we left off many years ago. It was so good to see her, and it made our stop at Aruba very special.

Katie said...

my friend I've had the longest, I've known basically since I was born. my parents were the maid of honor and best man at her parents wedding. she moved to Maine when I was in 2nd grade I believe, then after 3rd grade I moved to Pennsylvania. we saw each other occasionally, sent the occasional email. now with facebook we talk a lot more frequently. we both have three kids all about the same age. I haven't seen her in almost 8 years since her sister got married, one of these days I'll make it out East and see her again.

Dru said...

My oldest friend I met on my first day of college. Now, I have been out of college more years than I care to think about. We were like two peas in a pod at the orientation session. We keep in contact via emails, phone calls and at least 4 times during the year, we'll meet for lunch or dinner and take in a show.

My two best friends I've known for 15 years and they live in two different states. One friend we talk on the phone at least 3 times a week and email each other every day. My other best friend, we email each other and when she comes to town, we always do dinner and a show.

JB, I hope you have a great time with your friend.

Mayhem and Magic said...

I guess that would be Andrea -- roomed with in college freshman year - became fast friends the first night, bonding over My Fair Lady and An Officer and a Gentleman.

Email, Facebook, calls and visits....

Terri

jbstanley said...

What amazing women - to have remained friends for so many years! From 15-56! This makes me feel pretty darned good about the human race - the female half especially!

signlady217 said...

Two friends in Florida that I've had for 24 years (met them right after I got married), one in Kentucky (7 or 8 years), one in Tennessee (14 years), one in Mississippi (4 or 5 years), and one that travels a lot (7 years). Phone calls, e-mails, visits; one of them attends the same church I do. Couldn't make it without them. They're the ones who keep me sane!

Of course, if you count my mom, who is also one of my best friends, 45 years! (Yeah, my birthday's in a couple of weeks.)

Carol Brown said...

My friend whom I've known the longest (and still keep in touch with) would be Debi. We met when we were both in 7th grade, and went all the way through 12th grade together. We'll both turn 56 this year. Ever since my family moved a week after my high school graduation, Debi and I have kept in touch with letters (the real kind), birthday and various other greeting cards, a couple of visits at my home when she was in the area where I lived at the time, and, more recently, through email as well. We're Facebook Friends, too, now, but she rarely uses FB. All of the same "staying in touch information" goes for a male friend I met during the 1969-1970 school year--his senior year. And another female friend who moved to my high school our junior year, although we haven't seen each other in person since one time maybe 3 or 4 years after graduation.

Heather Webber said...

JB, I hope you're having a wonderful reunion. My oldest friend, hmmm... I'd have to say Debbie, who posts on the Chicks a lot. We met in 7th grade band class and were inseparable most of high school. We lost touch after graduation but reconnected a couple of years ago. She's the best!

Lindy said...

J. B., I'm envious. I love spending time with my long-time friend Wind Rider Hot Oomapa Mama. She's in Virginia, and I'm in Missouri, so we don't get to hang out together as much as we would like. But, oh, those times are precious!

Vicki said...

Well, I'm like Dru...I have 2 best friends who both live in different states! I'm in VA, my friend Lisa is on LI, and Dorrie, my college roommate from years past, lives in GA. I've known both these ladies for over 17 years and we talk on the phone more than anything. Dorrie is hoping to visit me this spring in honor of us both turning 40 (gasp!) Enjoy your girl time!

Lover of Books said...

My best friend Annie I have known since I was 13. She was my maid of honor. I was not in her wedding though she kept it small. We don't talk often as I would like but we email very often. She's so sweet.

Andrea said...

My BFF for the past 20 years lives on the other side of the country from me so we only see each other about once a year as well and is visiting this weekend too!! I find as you get older it's hard to develop friendships to that same level. There's something to be said about developing that trust in a friend at such a young age and keeping it over the years. Even though you don't see the person you can feel safe knowing they're there for you when you need them. :-)