Monday, January 11, 2010

Celebrities Who Abuse


Whenever a celebrity gets in trouble, I hear this refrain: we need to separate the person’s career from his or her personal life. To a point I agree. But only to a point. I’d call it my tipping point.

Charlie Sheen’s latest scandal hit my tipping point. He obviously has a problem respecting women and, in fact, is being called abusive -- for the third time apparently. For me that's a deal breaker. Three strikes and his show, THREE AND A HALF MEN, is out.

Maybe I'm not willing to separate the career from the man because the show itself has a problem respecting women. And to me, he is the show.

When the program first aired, I thought it was amusing. Mainly, I liked the kid. And the housekeeper. Because of them, I tolerated Charlie’s constant hunt for nubile women. But as the show aged, I got really, really sick of seeing every female portrayed as either a young, busty bubble brain in skimpy clothing or an older, bitchy, self-centered woman. Who are these writers, for heaven's sake? Fifteen-year-old males with mother issues and infantile sexual fantasies?

I intensely disliked that Charlie’s, and later his brother’s, life revolved around which next impossibly willing and incredibly dumb young woman would be in his bed, not to mention the horrendous role model they portrayed for the budding young teen in their care. This past season, I saw the show once, only because I was a guest in someone’s home, but I'm assuming the theme hasn't changed. It's about sex -- or a lack thereof.

So it’s no big deal for me to give up the show. But I wonder how many other people will call it quits because of Charlie’s alleged treatment of women. Or, as one TV commentator predicted, will he once again be Mr. Teflon? Will fans continue to love him? Will the law go easy on him? Will women be drawn to him no matter what?

What’s your take on celebrities who abuse? We’ve seen quite a few examples lately. Do you have a tipping point? Can you separate the celeb from his misdeeds? I’d like to know.

23 comments:

Heather Webber said...

I haven't seen the show in years, and I certainly wouldn't watch it now (though I love that housekeeper, too). He needs help, and I hope he gets it.

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Sheila Connolly said...

I've never watched the show, because I've never liked Charlie Sheen (before all this abuse information became public).

There are certainly many examples of good actors/actresses who are lousy people. Can we separate the person from the role? And should we? What about when good people play lousy characters (like Hugh Laurie's House)?

I'll admit I get a boost when I admire someone's talent AND s/he is a decent human being (Paul Newman comes to mind). So the flip side should apply: knowing someone is a jerk should detract from his or her performance. I refuse to watch Tom Cruise in anything.

Katie said...

I've never seen the show except catching the tail end waiting for the next show to start.

I think celebrities should get the same treatment as every other person. their money shouldn't matter.

I don't think there are any celebs that I particularly follow that have done anything seriously wrong. But perhaps I'm mistaken...

Dru said...

It is their sense of entitlement that bothers me.

I also think the media should stop glorifying their behavior as acceptable because of who they are.

Mason Canyon said...

I agree with Dru. I think their behavior is glorified to the point that people watching (especially teens and young children) begin to think it's a good thing to get in trouble. You just get more air time and press. I think when they do something it should be told and dropped, not on the news every five minutes to make them a household word.
Where have all the good actors/actresses gone? I long for someone like Paul Newman again.

Kaye said...

you said it perfectly. I gave up this show quite a while ago as it got old for me quickly. Initially I liked Jake when he was young and cute and I even liked Charlie's mother. There is no way on earth anyone could not like Conchata Ferrell. She is one funny lady!

Leann Sweeney said...

I have the same take as you. But I was done after one season. You know, there are very few good comedies anymore. I sooooo miss M.A.S.H., Seinfeld and Raymond. There's a spot open at 10, 9 Central on NBC. Maybe they could do reruns! (The ratings would soar.)

Helen Kiker said...

I never watched the show & would not start now. The worst thing is that the publicity does get them some new viewers. I wish they would stop having videos on the internet showing all the bad guys (& gals) and have more of caring considerate people.

Helen

Maggie Sefton said...

I never watched the show because I could tell from the promos that it was one of shows which that kind on setup: single guy looking to score. Big yawn. See that done so many times before and I don't watch them for the very reasons you mentioned. I think they're demeaning to women AND send out a very bad message to young teenage women about what's expected of them in society. Of course, I raised four daughters and developed very good radar years ago on that subject.

Nancy said...

Excellent commentary on this recent news event. There is no excuse for the behavior or for the actor being given a "pass" because he is famous. As far as the theme of the show...thank you, no!

Lover of Books said...

I watched the show from time to time and there were a lot of things that were funny like the house keeper. It's just not a show I watch much anymore.

Heather Webber said...

The entitlement is the worst!

Allison said...

I agree with you - I stopped watching Sheen's show quite awhile ago - the older ones were much funnier, but I got tired of the same theme.
I don't think you can separate a celeb from their misdeeds. I used to love the remake of "The Parent Trap", with Lindsay Lohan portraying the twins. I can't watch it anymore. I feel that to a point they are entitled to a private life, but because they are celebrities, they are in the public eye. Don't they undertand they are in the spotlight even in their day-to-day life? I don't see the Cozy Chicks acting up!
Fame may come with pressure, but there are other ways of handling it. Do I make sense?

Anonymous said...

Oh, I abhor the 'special treatment' given to celebrities! It disgusts and outrages me!

As for Charlie Sheen and 'Two-and-a-Half Men' - can't stand the show! My husband used to watch it until I asked him if he'd like some guy treating either of our daughters so disrespectfully. Granted, our girls are still young but he saw my point and quit watching. I realize TV - in general - is for entertainment purposes but I do think celebrities have social responsibility; since so many people (young and not-so-young) pay attention to what they do.

Another celebrity who disgusts me is Jude Law. I used to like him as an actor but now refuse to watch anything he's in because I think he is scum. Any so-called man who can turn his back on an innocent child doesn't deserve a dime of my hard earned money!

Sorry for my rant. I'll step off of my soapbox now! :)

Shel said...

I never watched the show, and not only because I just got paid TV back after over a year without. But Charlie never did much for me to begin with, so..

Kate Collins said...

Now if only the sponsors of the show would realize that smart women with good self-respect don't watch the show - maybe trashy shows like that wouldn't get on TV in the first place.
One can dream, right?

Judy said...

I agree with Allison--I can't watch Parent Trap anymore because of Lindsay Lohan's escapades, and I stopped watching Two and a Half Men years ago. I guess I don't want to support their work, because to do so actually supports them too. No thanks. I'll turn it off and read a good mystery. (Now hopefully all my favorite mystery writers are behaving themselves!)

Kate Collins said...

Well, I can't vouch for my cozy chick buddies, but I'm behaving MYself. (ahem).

Mary Kennedy said...

Great post!! I'm always annoyed when athletes/rock stars/movie stars etc, get a free pass on these offenses. I still remember folks cheering on OJ during that "low speed chase" in the Ford Bronco.

trek said...

Why invite someone into your living room whom you would not invite to sit in your dining room for dinner?

Anonymous said...

I am not sure what the truth is in the recent issues that are between Mr. Sheen and his wife. I hope that both of them get some serious counseling. In every incident there are two people and probably both have some responsibility in creating the results we are seeing played out in the media (both mainstream and tabloid).

The television show that he currently stars in has never presented a healthy story line. Unfortunately that is what seems to sell. If the ratings are not there the show would not be on.

While I am not always successful, I have for the past several years tried to register my feelings with my pocket book. When a celebrity’s actions cross lines that conflict with my beliefs, then I simply do not patronize their work, products, or causes. I find more that enough other things to keep me busy without economically enriching someone who simply can't step up to the plate and be a responsible adult and citizen.

Bookworm Princess said...

I have never watched his show but I have never been a big fan either. I tend to not really follow celebrities too closely and I think for the most part their personal lives should remain personal but when they are in the public eye and a spokesperson for 'goodness' and then we find out about the facade it is just unforgettable.