by Kate Collins
I have a hard time letting go of things. Whether they be clothes, art work, books, shoes, or just coffee cups, I somehow become attached emotionally. It takes a lot of effort combined with a lack of storage space to make me part with my belongings.
It’s not that I don’t want to donate and let others enjoy nice things, it’s that there is such sentiment behind them that I feel sad letting them go. Not everything, naturally. But I was going through my closet to purge it of winter clothes and discovered several dress jackets and blouses that I haven’t worn in years. Why did I keep them when I passed them right by each time I was looking for a dressy outfit? Because they weren’t in style. But my husband had chosen many of them with or for me and that was a huge reason why I couldn’t release them.
I did, however, suck it up and finally made a significant pile of many of those precious articles of clothing to go to my church’s resale shop. And now there’s room in my closet for new things! It’s a win/win situation.
When I downsized, I had to get rid of a cabinet full of mismatched coffee mugs collected over the years. Each one had meaning but I simply didn’t need them all or want to store them. So out most of them went.
Same with bookshelves full of hardback books that my husband and I had collected. Many weren’t my tastes but they were beautiful volumes that he and I loved. I ended up donating them to the local library for their book sale, keeping just a handful of classics that I couldn’t bear to part with.
I am by no means a pack rat. In fact, I’m the opposite of that. I have only a few well chosen–but sentimental items on display in my house and my cabinets and closets are models of organization. So I don’t understand why I make such sentimental attachment to belongings. In my rational mind, I know they are just “things” and don’t really matter. And yet some things” do matter, says my emotional mind.
I should ask my Cozy Chick buddy Mary Kennedy to explain. Mary is a forensic psychologist and usually has wisdom to share.
Are you that way about your belongings? Do you hold onto your things or are you a “one year and done” buyer?