Monday, June 10, 2013

My Follow Up Post to the Self-Love Challenge

by Kate Collins

Last week I reported about a webinar I'd heard on how to lead a more purposeful, less judgmental life. It was all about accepting yourself for who you are, actually loving yourself, warts and all. The self-love challenge was to find 5 things you love about yourself every day for a week. Each day had to be something new.

Here's what I thought would happen. I thought I'd start listing physical traits, such as, "I love my long eyelashes. I love my hair color," in order to turn my focus away from things I hate (eye wrinkles, for instance.)

Instead, when it came time to actually write down my 5 things, I found myself turning to the common personality traits, such as that I'm courteous, funny, intelligent, organized -- all things that others have told me. That worked fine until the third day, when I really had to look inside and find things about myself that I loved, not that others loved.

By day five, I had become very aware of my behavior toward others, of my attitude about things, either positive or negative, and about my urge to judge others.  As the day went on, I found myself mentally adding to my list things like,  "I love that I acknowledged my neighbor's opinion (even though I didn't agree.)" "I love that I made the cashier at the grocery store smile." "I love the way the sun is shining through the clouds today."

And guess what? By day seven, I had become more positive about life and had developed more of a "live in the moment" attitude, instead of always anticipating, and then worrying about, things that may or may not happen in the future.

I was glad I took the challenge because it made me realize there's a lot more to life than criticizing every single thing that passes by, including myself. When I started focusing on the positives, I became happier, and that, to me, was what the whole challenge was meant to do.

Another update: PRINTERS ROW, Chicago, was a lot of fun. I got to meet a number of Flower Shop Mystery fans and (yay!) to see my fellow Cozy Chick Julie Hyzy, at the Mystery Writers of America tent where we signed copies of our mysteries for a whole lot of book lovers who came out for a lovely day in the Loop.

Did you take the Self-Love Challenge? If you did, how did it go? If you didn't, would you want to do it? Do you think it would change you in any way?