Monday, January 14, 2013

Should I or Shouldn't I?

by Kate Collins

According to an article on Yahoo News, most people "waste an extraordinary amount of time obsessing about (and second-guessing) their decision making. "

Generally, I'm not one of them. I tend to make quick decisions. It isn't until afterward that I second-guess myself.

My mother wasn't good at making decisions. I remember, around the age of 12, being dragged along with her to Carson, Pirie Scott & Co when she needed an outfit for a special occasion. My dad was a policeman, and my mom a stay-at-home mother, so there wasn't much money in the budget for clothing, making a wise choice a necessity.  Still, once she had narrowed the choice down to say, three blouses, she simply couldn't decide, leaving it to me to make the final pick. Maybe that's why I make quick decisions now. I hated being kept away from the really important things in life, like lying on my bed with my bare feet against the wall, listening to the same song over and over, or talking to my best friend on the phone for hours.

I try to trust my gut when making decisions.  Last year I felt the time was right to sell my home and downsize. My big house, so necessary for a large combined family years ago, felt like a museum after my husband passed away. But once that For Sale sign was in the yard and a new "condo" style home was being built (gulp), oh boy did I second-guess my gut. For months I alternately cried and got excited as i cleaned out the house in preparation for the move.

Now that I'm all settled in, I know I did the right thing. I have wonderful new neighbors and a great new neighborhood. And the house is just right for me.

What kind of decision maker are you? Does it work for you or do you end up regretting your choice?