Monday, February 22, 2010
Tiger, Tiger, Burning Bright
I may be going out on a limb to say this but I just didn’t buy Tiger Wood’s apology. It seemed too, well, staged. Rehearsed. Maybe ghost written. Yes, I know Tiger is a great golfer. I know that his personal life should be separated from his professional career. I know he has a great many fans. But I can’t get over the feeling that he put himself out there for us to see, ponder, and watch the TV talking heads debate endlessly, so can we really separate the two Tigers? Should we separate them?
I applaud his efforts to clean up his act, if indeed, he’s sincere. I congratulate him on his courage to go in front of the cameras to do so. I truly hope he learned his lesson. I hope his marriage can be repaired and his family kept intact. I hope he does go back to golf. And we know he’ll make loads of money.
And yet.... what kind of message does that send to young people? Satisfy your urges no matter what the cost to those close to you, repent later, and resume your life as though nothing ever happened? How many of our politicians and athletes have been in similar situations and had no repercussions whatsoever? Wives smiling bravely by their sides, careers moving forward with barely a ripple. What kind of lessons are our future politicians/sports stars learning?
I really admire Jenny Sandford for taking a stand. She wasn’t about to pretend she accepted her husband’s infidelity just so his career wouldn’t be damaged. Yay! Finally a woman my daughter can admire. Of course, to be fair, there are no young children affected in their divorce, as there would be in Tiger’s situation. I can’t help wondering, though, what Elan Woods will do.
I heard a psychologist on TV say that if she chose to stay with Tiger, his hell would be ending and hers would be just beginning. What a terrible dilemma for her to be in.
What’s your take on situations like Elan’s. Should women stand by their men no matter what?
Kate, still pondering the matter